How to ask a dog for consent

When it comes to building a trusting and respectful relationship between humans and their dogs, one of the most overlooked but essential practices is asking for their consent. Consent, in this context, refers to seeking your dog’s willingness and comfort before proceeding with actions such as grooming, vet examinations, or anything that has potential to cause discomfort. Recognizing and respecting a dog’s body language and boundaries can have a major impact on their emotional well-being and their bond with their owner.

What is consent in dogs, and why does it matter? Just like humans, dogs have individual preferences, comfort levels, and thresholds for touch and handling. Some dogs may enjoy belly rubs, while others might find them invasive. Similarly, activities like nail trims or ear checks can be stressful for dogs if they aren’t prepared or comfortable.

By seeking consent, you’re:

• Reducing Stress: Giving your dog the choice to “opt in” or “out” can significantly reduce their anxiety during invasive or aversive procedures.

• Building Trust: Consistently respecting your dog’s boundaries teaches your dog that you’ll prioritize their comfort, strengthening your bond.

• Improving Cooperation: A dog that feels respected is more likely to cooperate, making tasks, such as nail trims, a smoother process for everyone.

  
  

How do I ask my dog for consent? To start, it is important to vocalize anytime you are about to do something to or with your dog that they may find “aversive”. For example, before examining their ear, tell your dog “I’m going to look at your ear”. This gives your dog a chance to mentally prepare for the examination. Imagine if someone walked up to you and started inspecting your ears without asking. You’d probably feel uncomfortable! Dogs deserve the same courtesy, especially since they can’t verbalize their boundaries.

If you start a procedure, like nail trim or examination, and your dog actively tries to leave, they are no longer giving consent. Mild discomfort is okay as long as they stay engaged, but it’s critical to watch for signs they want to stop.

In some circumstances, consent may not be fully achievable, but the task still must be completed, such as administering medication or providing emergency care. In these situations, prioritize your dog’s safety while minimizing their stress. If possible, use a helper to gently hold your dog while proceeding. It is important to not over “comfort” your dog during the process. By this, I mean continuously reassuring your dog by saying phrases like “it’s okay”. Instead, you should be talking to your dog in a firm yet understanding tone telling them phrases like “you need to wait”. Afterward, it is very important to tell your dog verbally that you are done with the procedure and offer an abundance of praise and treats to help the pup feel better about the situation. For future scenarios, work on desensitization and working up to making consent achievable.